Last night, I gave self-defense
plenty of thought after the news of planned killer robots to roam the skies, seeking
the enemy.
Several people commented about the
need to protect the good life they have, otherwise somebody would invade to
snatch it away. Quite right. We can't bow under bullies' threats. Reducing the
conflict to a playground scenario, it would be like stopping a gang of thugs
from beating you and taking your apple.
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In this morning's news, the U.K. defense
secretary is to announce details of where the British Army will be based after
its withdrawal from Germany. 4,000 troops have already moved back to the UK,
and 16,000 men and their families are to follow over the next five years. Read
the full story here. What? Britain still has
troops in Germany, 70 years after WW2 has ceased? I didn't know.
Back to the dilemma of stopping
other people taking what is yours. What does the lesson in the bible mean about
turning the other cheek? That's not about protecting, but rather about
accepting. Can we apply the meaning to the present day?
One summer back in the 70's, we
moved to a small fishing village in South Australia. With the cold war threatening
to break out at any time, and a missile pointing at Adelaide four hours drive
away, we built a high wall around a courtyard vegetable garden for protection
from roving hordes expected to roam the country like those in Mad Max.
While my daughters remained at a
local primary school, my teenage son would need to catch a school bus to an
Area School, set aside for local farmers and families dotted over the
countryside. During the summer holidays, my son chose to become a practicing Christian.
At his last school in Adelaide, he'd defended weaker children and had become a
hero. Tall for his age and slender as a young teenage boy can be while he
filled out his bones, he left for his first day full of enthusiasm.
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He returned that afternoon shaken
and bruised, declaring in all his bravery that nothing was wrong. After a week
or so, we got to the bottom of the problem. The bus driver explained that the
younger boys were hitting him just to watch his reaction when he turned the other cheek. The Christian driver
didn't know what to do about it and had discussed the problem with the
headmaster. They both said the boy would need to sort it out himself. The beatings
went on for two years while my 6'4" son grew into his bones. All the
advice and love his father and I could give him didn't show a result until one
day, he hit back. The beatings stopped. The boy became a man, warped beyond
recognition. His youthful zest for life had changed into a bouncer mentality.
Whilst remaining a loving son, his actions away from home fill me with horror.
Not only did this real-life experience
teach me how peer-group pressure can change a beautiful soul, it highlighted
the need for restrained defense at the beginning of a conflict to prevent a
build-up of aggression. Bridle as I might about the bleak reality, that's the way
things are. Protect yourself or succumb to another order.
I'm so sorry to hear about the bullying endured by your son. During all my years as a teacher I came up against a lot of incidents of playground bullying but could never manage to stop it. On one occasion a teacher organised an assembly on the injustices of bullying only to find that it made the problem worse rather than better. Personally I was bullied at school by some lads and this only stopped when I marched into the playground one morning, strided straight up to the ring leader and kicked him sharply on his shin. I don't know where I got the courage from but I do know that if I'd been seen by a teacher I would have been in big trouble!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your experience. How brave of you to face your aggressor.
DeleteI think physical altercations should be avoided, but sometimes it seems there is little other choice.
ReplyDeleteLee
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With deep regret, I must agree.
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